The other day I overheard Lucca and Leo talking in
the bath. Not sure how they got on the topic but I heard Lucca say to Leo “ you
don’t want to lose your tottie, you need it if you want to get married, have
children and for sex” Curious as to
where he picked it up I was dying to ask, but instead I just let it slide.
On a previous time he was playing in the bath with Leo
and told Leo to pour water over his penis as it feels better than x-e-x. I’m
like “what did you just say” Lucca: “ pouring water on your tottie is beter
than x-e-x” I’m quite dumbfounded and almost want to say it’s not x-e-x but s-e-x then I stop myself and think no – he obviously heard this from a friend at
school and just now tomorrow he runs off to school and tells all his friends my
mommy says it S-E-X. So I just stay calm and say yes it does.
Lucca must have a few friends at school with older
brothers and sisters as he
has come home from school with the most random stuff, that I thought would
only happen later (not in first grade)
First the one night after the bath he stands by the fireplace and starts thrusting his hips. When I ask him what are you doing – he says he is sexting the fireplace. I say that’s cool but just be sure you don’t burn your tottie and sexting is better kept for the bedroom. Then a few days later he is standing behind Leo in the kitchen, holds onto his shoulders and starts thrusting from behind. I ask what are you doing. He says he is showing Leo what humping is. I say cool , but humping is something grown-ups do. So he says but you and daddy never do it, I said yes we do, we just do it in the privacy of our bedroom.
First the one night after the bath he stands by the fireplace and starts thrusting his hips. When I ask him what are you doing – he says he is sexting the fireplace. I say that’s cool but just be sure you don’t burn your tottie and sexting is better kept for the bedroom. Then a few days later he is standing behind Leo in the kitchen, holds onto his shoulders and starts thrusting from behind. I ask what are you doing. He says he is showing Leo what humping is. I say cool , but humping is something grown-ups do. So he says but you and daddy never do it, I said yes we do, we just do it in the privacy of our bedroom.
I don’t want them to grow up with an unhealthy relationship with sex. I
want them to know its natural, pleasurable and they can follow up on their urges as long as
it is in private and consentual, when the time comes.
Kids are curious and you must satisfy their curiosity or they may go look for answers elsewhere.
But how much do you tell them and when is the question. Something all parents wonder about. The tips I've picked up that make the most sense are: Follow your gut and only answer the question they are asking. Don’t elaborate unnecessarily.
Good luck !
Kids are curious and you must satisfy their curiosity or they may go look for answers elsewhere.
But how much do you tell them and when is the question. Something all parents wonder about. The tips I've picked up that make the most sense are: Follow your gut and only answer the question they are asking. Don’t elaborate unnecessarily.
Good luck !
