Knowing your
children are going to get hurt, be heartbroken and knowing that there is
nothing you can do to stop it. All you can do is be there to hold them. Silently.
Sometimes
I feel like Joy from the movie Inside Out – I want all their memories to be
golden. But just as Joy needed to
realise that Sadness played an important part I need to keep on reminding
myself of the same thing. It’s a bit like the poem / blessing – not sure of the
origins but it goes like this:
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright
no matter how grey the day may appear
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even
more
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit
alive and everlasting
I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of
joys in life may appear bigger
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you
possess
I wish you
enough hellos to get you through the final good- bye .
It’s
all about balance. Yin and Yan. You cannot experience or appreciate the one
side of a continuum without the other. My life is certainly richer because
of the hardships I’ve endured and survived, so I shouldn’t want to deny them
the same. I guess my fear is that I’llwon’t equip them with the right tools to
be able to endure and survive.
